{"id":10045,"date":"2022-11-27T15:50:59","date_gmt":"2022-11-27T14:50:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mindspring.bureauram.dev\/?page_id=10045"},"modified":"2024-01-24T17:15:59","modified_gmt":"2024-01-24T16:15:59","slug":"compassionate-communication","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/mindspring.nl\/en\/compassionate-communication\/","title":{"rendered":"Compassionate communication"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-page\" data-elementor-id=\"10045\" class=\"elementor elementor-10045 elementor-9302\" data-elementor-post-type=\"page\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-fc614db elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-items-middle\" data-id=\"fc614db\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" 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class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h3>Related information<\/h3><ul><li><a href=\"https:\/\/mindspring.nl\/en\/fear-of-abandonment\/\">Fear of abandonment<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/mindspring.nl\/sociaal-panorama\/\">Social Panorama<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/mindspring.nl\/en\/practical-information\/\">Practical information<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-66 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-38a2359\" data-id=\"38a2359\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2934c99 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2934c99\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Compassionate communication<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-db568a6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"db568a6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Creating an atmosphere of respect and trust<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8c714f6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8c714f6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Over time a relationship or marriage can get stuck in a rut, or distance and a reduction in intimacy and passion occur. In short, the love is not what it used to be anymore. Sometimes an atmosphere of conflict or hate has even developed. Both partners end up in a vicious cycle of criticism, reproaches and demands and do not know how to break out of this. Compassionate communication is a technique to break this cycle and bring trust, respect and love back into the relationship.<\/p><p>Compassionate communication means interacting and communicating in such a way that more understanding and connection develop. Five elements play a key role: perception, meaning, feeling, need and request. Often people are not aware of these elements or confuse them. A subjective meaning is often easily viewed as a fact. People frequently do not acknowledge their own feelings and needs or they don\u2019t express them (the other should know that I \u2026). A request to the other may be expressed as a demand or a reproach.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7d64f36 elementor-align-left elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"7d64f36\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-lg\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspring.nl\/en\/appointment\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">Make an appointment for compassionate communication\u200b<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-5b7ce27 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"5b7ce27\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-cb06613\" data-id=\"cb06613\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a88c0c1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a88c0c1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Compassionate communication helps you break the negative cycle by:<\/p><ul><li>Starting to observe each other\u2019s behaviour objectively<\/li><li>Acknowledging the meaning you assign to this and adjust it if necessary<\/li><li>Becoming aware of deeper feelings and needs<\/li><li>Translating your needs into a concrete request for the other person<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2529eeb elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"2529eeb\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-68da7ca\" data-id=\"68da7ca\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-335ba5a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"335ba5a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Compassionate communication also involves discovering wat is a sign of love for your partner and yourself. We are too quick to assume that the other person knows that you love them. Love is not sustained just by itself. Like the gas tank of a car, the reservoir of love needs to be replenished regularly. People, however, have different kinds of fuel, different signs of love. For some people, a present is a token of love, for others it\u2019s a touch, a compliment or a service. Once you know the other\u2019s fuel, it\u2019s easier to replenish it. Thus you can sustain a feeling of love, intimacy and passion, even after many years.<\/p><p>The art of communicating effectively is:<\/p><ul><li>Being able to separate fact and meaning<\/li><li>Being aware of your feelings and needs<\/li><li>Translating a need into a concrete request for the other person<\/li><li>Regularly giving each other signs of love<\/li><\/ul><p>In this way, people can get to know each other better, even after years, and give their relationship a new boost.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-eb3c5ed elementor-align-left elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"eb3c5ed\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-lg\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspring.nl\/en\/appointment\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">Make an appointment for compassionate communication\u200b<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-0aedbe6\" data-id=\"0aedbe6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f0383c6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"f0383c6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"375\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/mindspring.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/jos-van-boxtel-2-375x450-1.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-9652\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mindspring.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/jos-van-boxtel-2-375x450-1.jpg 375w, https:\/\/mindspring.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/jos-van-boxtel-2-375x450-1-250x300.jpg 250w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 375px) 100vw, 375px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Freely expressing your feelings and needs \u00a0 Related information Fear of abandonment Social Panorama Practical information Compassionate communication Creating an atmosphere of respect and trust Over time a relationship or marriage can get stuck in a rut, or distance and a reduction in intimacy and passion occur. 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